Seeking a balanced life: you can’t have it all at once

Thoughts on slowing down have led me to consider the meaning of a balanced life.

What does that exactly mean? It looks different to each one of us.

This poem by Kenneth Koch, though, is a game changer at least for me.

Poem originally published in The New Yorker, May 18, 1998 P 80.

What’s true is of these three you may have two and two can pay you dividends but never may have three. These are the strongest verses in my opinion. It’s a hard pill to swallow, and if you think about it, there’s truth in it. You can’t have it all at the same time.

There’s a specific season for everything: a season to socialize and make new friends. A season to enjoy it with family. A season for self-reflection in silence. A season to plan and execute. A season to rest and so on and so forth. Each phase has its own time and space, otherwise it’d be too overwhelming to try and experience them all at once.

It’s a good idea to take one thing at a time.

It’s okay to prioritize and declare “this is not my time to socialize. I need to slow down and self-reflect on what’s next for me.” It’s all about seeking a balanced life.

As mom-to-be, I realize I need to find a season for any of my endeavours regarding my family, friends and work. I’m starting to assimilate the idea that there isn’t enough time, my friends. I have 24 hours a day like any of you. I need to spend it wisely and determine what that looks like.

How about you? How are you finding your seasons?